Many couples around the world dream of having children, but after repeated attempts,remain unsuccessful. There are many medical and psychological factors responsible. Many couples suffer from infertility and are willing to go any lengths to conceive a child. However, the journey is an arduous one full of trials and tribulations, accompanied by mixed feelings of pain, sadness, frustration and helplessness. That’s why it becomes all the more important to see a fertility therapist.
What is fertility counselling?
People deal with the stress of infertility in different ways. Some are very fortunate to have the support of family and friends during these hard times. Others go through this battle alone, making it difficult to come to terms with the strain of infertility. That’s where fertility counselling comes into the picture. Fertility and reproductive counselling or IVF counselling is the practice of offering psychological support to couples who are diagnosed with infertility, to help them overcome feelings of anxiety, depression and mental fatigue during the treatment. It also addresses couples who have experienced failed cycles and gives them motivation to keep trying and stay positive in life.
Here are 5 ways fertility counselling can help you deal with infertility:
1. Addresses relationship problems:
Infertility issues, in many cases, wedge a gap between couples who are trying to have a baby. Often what happens is that you and your partner become so consumed by infertility issues that you forget to work on your relationship or on your marriage. Infertility takes a huge emotional toll on you and in the process, you and your partner end up arguing over small things, stop communicating and worst of all give up hope. Fertility counselling helps you and your partner deal with these issues. They encourage you to openly address problems, in a positive and constructive way. They help you realise and appreciate all the wonderful things about your marriage that exist irrespective of the presence of a child in your life. During infertility treatment, it’s extremely important to remain calm and composed. Stress affects your body’s ability to conceive a child. Furthermore a rocky relationship only adds to your woes. When you seek counselling for fertility problems, you can sustain a healthy relationship with your partner and get through this trying time together.
2. Gives you clarity and direction:
Okay, you’ve signed up for infertility treatment, but then what? Should you go for an IVF or an IUI? Should you freeze your eggs for the future? What if you have a new job and are unsure of having a baby? What if your family had a history of chronic illness? Should you still have a child then? What happens if IVF doesn’t work? What does that mean for your marriage? And the questions never end.Facing dilemmas is a normal part of life. Fertility counsellors are here to help you address these questions and figure out what it is that you really want. Trying to conceive a child is not at all easy. It’s normal to have so many fears and questions. When you and your partner attend counselling, your fertility therapist will help discuss these issues together and give you a clear head to make the right decision for the future.
3. Helps you gain confidence and strength:
You eat, sleep, breathe infertility. It’s the first thing you think of when you wake up and the last thing on your mind before you sleep. You dream about it and have nightmares about a childless future. You stop doing things you enjoy and find yourself Googling all things infertility, all day. You’re constantly talking to your friends and family about the issue or if you have an unsupportive family, shun yourself out completely. You feel like you’ve reached a point in life where nothing else matters. This is a vicious cycle that consumes you to the point that you’re in too deep. And this ultimately leads to clinical depression, anxiety and even heart disease. When you’re feeling this low, it’s mandatory to see a fertility therapist. In such situations fertility counselling will help you pick up old hobbies, will teach you to learn to love yourself and boost your self-confidence. Therapeutic talks and sessions will help you regain your self worth and mentally prepare you for the treatment process. It will also make you a much stronger person and prepare for you for failure, which isn’t uncommon during infertility treatments.
4. Gives you additional support:
There is a lot of stigma around counselling in general. Unfortunately, many couples choose to bottle up their problems and rather not see a counsellor. Societal and family pressure adds to this. You may not be depressed or anxious or scared. You may simply just want to talk to someone who will listen to you without any bias. Seeing a fertility counsellor doesn’t mean that you are weak or you need help. It’s a decision you’re taking for yourself and your mental health. It’s like exercise. You exercise to keep your body fit and healthy. Similarly you should see a fertility counsellor to keep your confidence levels up and become mentally prepared for the successes and failures of infertility treatments.
5. Prepares you for alternate options:
While most infertility treatments have a relatively high success rate, failures also happen. Even after three cycles, some couples are not able to conceive. That’s okay. Fertility counsellors will help you discuss options such as surrogacy, adoption and even childlessness to help you understand that it’s not the end of the world. You are a great person and can be a great parent even through adoption and surrogacy. They help you understand the implications of these options and support you in whatever you choose to do. Counselling for fertility problems is an important part of infertility treatments. While your infertility specialist will take care of all your physical and surgical needs, a fertility counsellor will address your psychological discomfort and give you the mental strength to carry on and keep that flame of hope burning at all times.
So, when you come for treatment, make sure to pay our fertility counsellors a visit and watch
your infertility blues slowly fade away.
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